First of all, I love every bit of this article as I found it so relatable to someone who also has BPD. I love your insight into why we are people pleasers around friends due to our fear of abandonment - I never thought about it like that before but it makes total sense and will help me keep my motives in perspective. I was in a job I hated for most of my life. I dreaded the question at parties, "What do you do?" I never reciprocated which I think people think is odd and they are taken aback because they want to brag about their high profile job. Thanks again for this, and wonderful writing style!