Loved this. I am currently struggling with a friendship that no longer serves me, but because of our history together it is hard to untangle. I love how you acknowledge that if dread comes up when they contact us, that is a signal to look at the current dynamics. I still feel guilt ending the relationship because she is completely oblivious to the reality that we have grown apart (or just tries to go on as is) and I love her for the friendship and support she gave me during my divorce. Anyway, it's so complicated to break up with a friend, yet so socially accepted in romantic relationships - I have always found that difference interesting. I really appreciate this insight.